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Some gay men are natural seducers, others learn through hard trial-and-error.If you fall into the latter category, here’s a few tips to save you some grief in the game of picking up gay men:

Steps

1. Tone down your repulsive aspects. Do you really need anyone to tell you that appearance is important to gay guys? Lose your gut, trim your beard, press your pants, get some new clothes with designer labels on them. The goal is not to look like Adonis (though that would be good if you can), but to maximize whatever natural attractiveness you have.

2. Stop letting your appearance be an excuse to hide. Have you ever seen a super-hot guy wander off with someone you wouldn’t give the time of day to? That’s because the art of seduction has a lot more to do with social skills than with naked physical attraction. It’s not 30 pounds you need to lose to pick up more men—it’s your inner fears.

3. Approach guys. Approach a lot of guys. To get started in the pick-up game, you have to get out of your shell. As hard as it may be, you need to go where gay men are and learn to approach them. And not just one or two guys, but many guys, guys single and in groups, old guys, young guys, and ugly guys, in the bars and in the bank line. If you can’t strike up a conversation, you don’t have a chance to pick up and eventually seduce someone you’re attracted to.

4. Don’t hesitate. Nothing conveys indecision and nervousness like hesitation. Indecision and nervousness are not attractive traits. So practice the three-second rule: train yourself to approach your target within three seconds of seeing him.

5. Learn some approaches. Approaches are an excuse—any excuse—to start a conversation with someone: “How do I get to Hyatt Hotel?â€? “There’s some lint on your collar.â€? “I noticed something about you…â€? The easiest of all approaches is simply to smile and say “hi.â€? Forget pick up lines–“I want to melt in your mouth, not in your hand.â€? “Did it hurt when you fell from heaven?â€?—they’re phony, convey too much sexual interest, and leave you no place to go.

6. Have a opener. You’ve exchanged a few words. What happens next is crucial. You’ve got to navigate from being a complete stranger that your target is humoring to being someone he actually wants to talk to. For that develop some openers, standard conversational ploys that will draw your target in. Try something startling: “That wasn’t your car on fire in the parking lot, was it?� “Did you see those two guys fighting outside?� Or get an opinion: “Hey, can I ask you a question? What’s the best way to get revenge on an ex? This guy I know…� Develop your opener into a little routine by adding vivid details (“One fireman was so hunky that…�) Get your target involved and keep him engaged until he gives signs of starting to relax. Sometimes it helps to give the opener a time constraint so that he thinks you’ll shortly be on your way (“I’ve got to go find my friend, but…)

7. Learn disinterested interest. He suspects you’re trying to pick him up, but keep him off balance to give time for his attraction to develop. That means to keep talking in a friendly way while pretending you’re not really that interested sexually.

8. Don’t compliment–neg. Since compliments (“I love your smile!â€?) give away your attraction, throw them in the dust bin with the pick-up lines. Instead, learn to neg. Negging is the art of giving a half-compliment, setting up a dissonance in your pick-up target. Examples: “I love your smile—are you wearing braces?â€? “That’s a nice shirt—did you get it at the outlet mall?â€? “I’ve never seen hair like that before.â€? The neg should always sound friendly and positive and only subliminally be insulting. It excites your subject by sending contradictory signals spinning in his brain, excitement he will be intrigued to resolve.

9. Demonstrate your social value to allow him to be attracted. Don’t stop talking, but don’t just talk aimlessly. Learn to be funny and entertaining and cast yourself in a positive light in the stories you tell. Tell him about the time you went camping and scared away the bear, or how great your new gym routine is making you feel. Talk about ex-boyfriends or hang a “friend� around your shoulder to demonstrate that others think you’re attractive. Give him, in other words, enough ammunition to allow himself to be attracted to you. When he is, you’ll see the signals in his eyes and body language that indicates his increasing interest.

10. Touch. Touch early and often to get the ball rolling. But make sure your touches are motivated, not crude pawing. Examine his cool wristwatch. Flatten his mussed-up collar. Slap away his too-familiar fingers. Crack his neck. Test his kiss-ability quotient. To leave him wanting more, let your touches be fleeting. No clamping your hand on his ass and leaving it there.

11. Isolate, move, and keep developing rapport. Invite him to a quieter corner of the bar, and maybe then outside for a breath of air or to a pizza place you know where you can grab a slice of pizza. Oh, yeah, and maybe your place to check on a pet?

12. Approach the art of seduction as a learnable skill. There are many books on the subject (start with Tony Clink’s book available at Amazon) and the Internet has a host of straight and at least one gay website (listed below) giving tons of seduction advice. Read, participate, question, share. And of course experiment and have fun.

Tips

* It’s not polite to hit on straight men once they’ve made their preferences known. They don’t like it any more than you would like being hit on by a straight woman.

* It’s sometimes possible to pick up straight men if they are suggestible or drunk enough, or if there are special circumstances (like women being present). In the vast majority of cases, trying to pick up a straight man involves getting someone to do something they don’t really enjoy. It’s not nice to pressure or trick people into doing that.

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